Today at Church

acquaintance: Congratulations on your daughter’s baptism. You must be so proud.
me: Thanks. We really are.
acquaintance: I can’t believe how quickly she’s grown.
me: Me either. It’s happened so fast. She’ll be as tall as I am soon.
acquaintance: Must be time to get another one.
me: ?!
acquaintance: I hear there are lots of children out there waiting to be adopted.
me: I hadn’t heard that. We’re pretty happy the way we are.
acquaintance: I can’t remember where I heard that, but there are children out there.
me: I sort of like having all my eggs in one basket. It’s such a pretty basket.
acquaintance: Of course, you could always foster…
me: Uh, well, nice talking to you…

It’s been a very long time since I’ve had to endure a conversation like this.
I hope it’s even longer until the next one.

8 Responses to Today at Church
  1. Jenn
    November 16, 2008 | 8:38 pm

    Don’t you hate that! Some people just don’t know when to stop. I think you have a cute family, whether you add to it or not! You know if you want a baby fix you can always love on mine (if he’ll ever get here), and there are plenty at church who love snuggles. :) Newt looked so cute in her dress today by the way! :)

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    Heidi here: Thanks.
    I’d love to see your little guy when he gets here, but I’ll be happy to hand him right back. :)
    I haven’t needed a baby fix in a very long time. I think that the next baby who joins this family will be calling me Nana.
    In many, many, many years…

  2. Meagan
    November 17, 2008 | 6:20 am

    Ugh. So sorry you had to endure that. There are few things as annoying/hurtful/none-of-your-business as that kind of conversation.

  3. Amy
    November 17, 2008 | 8:39 am

    Some people just have no clue. Sorry you had to put up with that!

    I can’t have any more children for serious medical reasons, and I can’t tell you how many times people don’t accept the short “no more for us” answer when they ask when I’m having another… they keep pushing with comments about how we need more kids, etc. Sometimes I actually tell them my medical problems, which shuts them up quick, but really, couldn’t they take the hint and just drop it? Grrrr!

  4. Kristin
    November 17, 2008 | 9:47 am

    I don’t have children, so I understand those types of conversations, too. My grandmother was fixated on one thing – that I should adopt a seven year old. Not a newborn or a three year old, but seven.

    I was cursed out by this woman, seriously cursed out, when I was about 14 or 15 years old. I had my sister on my hip and we were at a Burger King. I was babysitting her for the afternoon and this woman assumed that this was my child and gave me a piece of her mind about teenage pregnancy. I told her that she was my sister but the dear child, in all of her 2 year old wisdom, chose at that time to call me momma & gave a HUGE grin. I loved it. That woman felt that she was right and I was the mom and I knew that my sister was going to grow up a comedian.

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  5. Janalyn
    November 17, 2008 | 4:40 pm

    Ohhhh! I’m so sorry! I think I know exactly who. The scene played in my head with voices and faces as I read. I hope I’m not wrong because that would mean there are others out there who would say the same thing! AAARRRGH!!!

  6. The Roost
    November 17, 2008 | 9:42 pm

    MY WORD! Some people….. :0

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  7. Jolene
    November 19, 2008 | 3:47 pm

    Yep, my son is just barely two are we’re getting those sly questions. I want to wear a sign that says “Only Qualified to Mother Two Children.”
    Cuz that’s totally how I feel.

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  8. kym thurman
    December 5, 2008 | 8:52 am

    I am on the other end of the spectrum with 7 children…The comment I always got was, “Don’t you know what causes that?” I used to get frustrated….then I found the answer that always shut them up! I would smile slyly and say, “Yes, and we are realllllly good at it, too!”
    I think that God makes different sized families for different sized people. For comments like that, I might answer with a, “Really, that is a neat idea. How many children have you adopted??? Oh, well, how many are you fostering? Oh, so you don’t have any???Hmmmmm, maybe we can go check all that out together??? What about Friday???” I am thinking that they will leave you alone after that!!! Just my 4 cents!!!

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